Saying "I don't know" is one of those throwaway phrases that we add in to buy ourselves more time to think. To delay or defer having to come up with something on the spot. But while it might seem harmless, it might actually be costing you something.

Do you ever get stressed and then feel stressed about being stressed?? 🤣 You know you're "supposed to" keep stress levels low. High stress impacts your health in all kinds of ways. So, stressing about how stressed you are is not helping. You know this, but it's so hard to stop! I get it. I'm right there with you.

As I was coaching a client recently on her feelings of mom guilt, we decided to try out a different word. One that doesn't come with so much weight and the thought that you've done something wrong. We swapped guilt for doubt. Mom doubt. (or just doubt because not everything we experience as moms has to be labeled with the word "mom". No one ever says "dad guilt".) Doubt doesn't mean you've done something wrong. It means you're unsure.